All those in favor of remaining close with your exes say aye.
Not sure if it’s just me, but I’m still super close with one of my ex-boyfriends. Like, talk-every-few-days close. And it’s not like it’s romantic; he has a girlfriend, I’m, well, yeah. But whenever I tell people, they usually get weirded out or judgey about it, and I don’t get why. And recently, I was sitting in a group of women just bonding over bashing their exes while awkwardly remained quiet, sipping on my water wishing it was vodka.
Is there some unwritten rule saying you must hate your exes?
Here’s what I think: unless they screwed you over (which I get), you liked them at some point for some reason, right? So why would it be weird to keep them in your life?
If you hate every single one of your exes, have you ever thought that maybe they’re not the issue, but that you’re just picking shitty people?
I’m not saying I’m buddy-buddy with every person I’ve dated. Most of them I’ve just lost contact with for no particular reason. And yes, there’s one specific ex whose balls I’d happily drive over with a bulldozer in neutral. But that was a bad choice from the get-go and a whole other can of worms.
But I actually think it’s kind of hot when a guy is still friendly with his exes. Maturity, guys. It’s sexual.
Who we choose to date is our prerogative, but finding yourself with a roster of exes you want to castrate just leaves you with bad blood far too unnecessary for this short life and your bomb self. And you don’t want your past to be a preview for what’s to come, do you?